1. Set Up Expectations and Boundaries Early

Discuss personal preferences, spatial boundaries and other house rules early. Conversations may cover:

• Which spaces are private. Perhaps you don't enter the other person's bedroom without knocking and getting verbal permission. Or you might each have a closet or set of drawers that's off limits. Discuss digital privacy too — can you use each other's phones, tablets or computers, and do you need permission?
• What you don't want help with. If you're slow to do certain things or struggle with some tasks but you want to remain independent, let the other person know not to jump in to help unless you ask.
• Schedule preferences. Discuss who's an early bird or night owl, when you prefer to rest and what times you like to have to yourself.

As you get to know your companion living roommate, you can learn more about personal habits and preferences, such as TV shows you can enjoy together or whether you share an interest in certain hobbies.

2. Don't Be Afraid to Ask for or Offer Help

Sharing your space with someone offers a unique opportunity to get help with life's daily challenges. As you get to know and trust your companion, don't be afraid to lean on them a bit. If you wake up a little more stiff one morning, they might bring you a beverage while you get going. Or you might ask them to remind you about an upcoming appointment or a task you tend to forget.

Be prepared to return the favor and assist your companion as you're able. Remember, actively listening to and encouraging each other or praying for and with each other can also be helpful.

3. Commit to Sharing New Experiences

For many older adults, an exciting part of moving into an assisted living community is the opportunity for socialization and taking part in various activities. At the same time, jumping into an existing community on your own can feel daunting. Commit to sharing new experiences with your companion to make them less stressful. You might each pick something new to do together every week.

Look at the community activity calendar for ideas, think about how you can enjoy small treats or outings or come up with new hobbies to test out.

4. Show Gratitude Daily

While companion living has many benefits, you're also living with another person, and this can come with some tension at times. Being kind and appreciative to one another can help alleviate such issues. Find ways to show gratitude every day. Say thank you for any help offered, and demonstrate appreciation with little acts of service in return.

5. Support Growth and Confidence in Each Other

Having a companion as you move into a new level of care can inspire confidence and help you grow. Remember, you aren't simply there to hold each other up like a crutch but to support each other in enjoying an active, vibrant life. Consider how you can be a cheerleader for your companion. Ask about their goals, desires and family. Encourage them in hobbies, pray for them before health appointments and offer to be an accountability partner if they have goals.

By investing in your companion, you can reap the benefits of creating a happier, healthier home for you both.

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